Omotola (Tola) Ogidan & Brendan Coates
Wedding date: August 5, 2017
Occupations She’s software consulting manager; he’s detention officer. Ages She’s 35; he’s 31. Hometowns She’s from Ondo State, Nigeria; he’s from Oswego, N.Y. Where they live now Charlotte. How they met Tola and Brendan met on Match.com. Brendan messaged Tola two years before they actually met. First concerned about their age difference, Tola eventually agreed to meet Brendan. Where they got engaged Brendan first asked Tola to marry him three months after they first met while she was in Nigeria visiting family. The “real” engagement with a ring occurred in her bedroom. Tola had returned from a work trip and Brendan offered to pick up dinner. When Brendan came into the bedroom he proposed and a shocked Tola said yes. Wedding in three words Rustic, elegant, fun. Color palette Lavender. First dance song “Riptide” by Vance Joy. Favors Gourmet Popcorn.
Keep it simple It was important to Tola and Brendan that the ceremony and the reception to be located at the same location. “We didn’t want our guests to scramble around after the ceremony,” says Tola.
International Affair Family flew in from New York, Nigeria and the United Kingdom to celebrate Tola and Brendan’s nuptials.
Marriage License Mishap “During the rehearsal, I couldn’t find the marriage license andthe officiant said he couldn’t marryus,” says Tola. “I was a wreck, but, thankfully, we found it at 7:30 a.m. the day of the wedding. I was so happy to be able to [actually] get married that I forgot to get nervous about other things.”
Advice for brides“Make the choices that you and your groom want,” says Tola. “Do not try to pleaseeveryone. You will never be able to re-do this day. Everything won’t be perfect, just roll with the unexpected things. “ Advice for grooms“Relax,” says Brendan.
Wedding, reception, rehearsal dinner, and wedding night venue: The Arbors Events / Wedding planner, consultant or designer: Lynsey Walczak Smith, The Arbors Events / Caterers: LKN Weddings & Events / Cake and flowers: Publix / Hairstylist: Shirley Threattwith Riah’s Hair Kare / Makeup artist: Priscilla Chilczuk and Andrea Garrison / Gown and veil: New York Bride & Groom / Gown designer: Stella York / Headpiece: Amazon / Headpiece designer: Unicra / Bride’s shoes: Off Broadway / Shoe designer: Unisa Brinly / Bridesmaid dresses: David’s Bridal / Bridesmaid dresses’ designer: Versa / Tuxedos: The Men’s Wearhouse / Tuxedo designer: Calvin Klein (groom) / Invitations: Homemade by bride and her sisters / Cinematography: Digital Spark Studios / Music, entertainment, booking agency: DJ Kato / Rental providers: Linens, tables, andchairs fromThe Arbors Events; photo booth from DJ Kato / Transportation provider: T & J Shuttle and Limousine, LLC / Engagement ring: REEDS Jewelers / Wedding rings: REEDS Jewelers for bride and Amazon for the groom / Clergy: Harry Workman / Bridal registry: Thankful.com